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A Work in Progress

A Work in Progress – By Guest Writer – Marilyn L. Redmond

Work in ProgressOne of my first memories is my mother telling me, “Don’t feel that way”. I wanted to tell her about my sexual abuse. I did not understand at age five what was happening to me. I quit any feelings at that time because there was no point. Growing up in a family that was alcoholic and mentally ill, I was not aware that I was in a home without any emotional availability. There was no trust, no talk, and no feelings.   

Then a few years later, I heard on a radio show, a song by the dummy, Mortimer Snerd, of the famous ventriloquist Edgar Bergen. He sang, “It pays to be ignorant; it pays to be ignorant just like me”. I thought if I did not know about life, I would be in a better place. This was the decision of a young inexperienced child. Therefore, my growing up was not in reality. I put my head in the sand like an ostrich and over the years what I did not know, grew into a huge crisis.  

My body told me I was dying from the prescription drugs, my first psychiatrist prescribedThroughout my marriage, my husband strangled and raped me several times, trying to kill me. I was trying suicide to remove myself for the domestic violent marriage. It was time to grow up. 

I found myself in a hospital treatment center for co-dependency and then they intervened me for addiction to the prescription medications. That is where I first heard that addiction is a family disease of no trust, no talk, and no feelings; I knew immediately that was my problem. I could not trust untrustworthy parents or my husband, there was no communication in either family, and I had no feelings. I had to start changing this to survive and not die. My new psychiatrist told me, a quote by Socrates, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”  

In college, I thought I found someone with which I could talkIn recovery, I later realized we were both abused children who never grew up. I felt I could trust him at first because we could converse. We were in accord and I thought this was great at the time. However, in my marriage, alcohol and smoking continued to keep my feelings suppressed, as to feel emotions was still not safe. That I married a man as sick as I was, brought an awakeningFinally, I realized that even thought I was still emotionally 3 years old; I had to leave the marriage, as he could not matureI had to divorce him.  

With counseling, 12 step programs, and meditation, I found the answers to move into being emotionally available. As I developed a conscious contact with my higher power in meditation, I started to hear guidance to move out of my past conditioning of fear, guilt and shame. I could practice healthy communications in my 12 step programs. It was time to replace survival skills with loving solutions, instead of staying in my terror. Learning to substitute new behaviors for defense mechanisms was improving the quality of my life.  

I began to understand the universal laws and that was a landmark change. I had attracted a man as emotionally unavailable as I was, as “Like attracts like. It turns out the people around me are playing the parts that are a reflection of me for my awareness. These are the traits I need to change. When I change, my life around me it adjusts to my new perceptions and actions. I really do create my own reality.  

 In the movie, “Ground Hog Day” with Bill Murray, this change is day by day. We keep coming back in new lives continually to learn to change into a selfless person from a selfish personThis is my purpose in life. I learned that I had to do the changing to find a man that was emotionally mature. Then, I could attract a person that was healthy and caring.   

I proceeded to do a makeover on me. This was a colossal shift for me. It took time to find emotionally safe groups to join so I could trust them. Gradually, I found myself in improved communications, because I was not so fearful and in survival when around safe people.  

I am still thawing out from being the iceberg. Allowing all my walls of protection to crumble, one by one has been the differenceEach time I am more emotionally available my boyfriend’s energy comes into my space more noticeably. I was the one keeping out love by my defensiveness and protective mechanisms.   

I have to be what I want in a relationship. However, this time I had a partner willing to change too. Trusting and honest communicating came together over time; however, feeling my feelings came last for me. For nearly 16 years of learning to communicate, trust, and have all my feelings with my fellow has been quite an adventure, emotionally. As, I have been growing, it has given him confidence to also grow emotionally, feeling safe to express himself in a deeper way. It has been a gradual change, for both of us.  

I find that allowing real love into my life is the biggest fear of all. Today, however I am almost thawed. It has taken 31 years to be able for me to receive the depth of real emotionsLast weekend, I had the experience of receiving unconditional love without my walls of protection. Yes, I found a man emotionally available. I ended up emotionally checking out for 24 hours to allow my energy to open up to it. Now, I am adjusting to being open to receiving. I am still a work in progress.   


Rev. Marilyn Redmond, BA, CHT, IBRT is a Holistic Health Counselor, consultant, medium/psychic, and speaker. She is also an award winning international writer, author, syndicated columnist, consultant, regressions counselor, and teacher. She writes a column for “The Sussex Newspaper” and shares the dynamics of life through her own experience. Marilyn is an ordained minister for spiritual counseling, soul healing, and does Past Life Regressions. Enjoy her latest books, “Road to Success” and “Paradigm Busters, Reveal the Real You”, and other books that are available on They are inspirational and helpful.


Beyond Appearances

Beyond Appearances – By Guest Author – Marilyn Redmond

Beyond AppearancesI met my husband in college at a college dance, the first day of schoolWe were both in the college band and the hop was to introduce us to the other band membersThe fellow with whom I was dancing needed to leave early that at evening. He turned to my husband to be and said, “Here you dance with her. I have to head back to Seattle for work”.   

Over time of being in classes with my new dance partner, we became friendly. I enjoyed pleasant conversations in the music rooms after practice time. He even asked my advice about a couple of his concernsI was flattered that he wanted to know my opinions. This was new to me and I was pleased to find someone that seemed interested in what I had to say. 

We married in our senior year of collegeIn moving to a small town where we taught music, I thought I had left my family background of madness. It was not until he tried to kill me several times and I was trying suicide that I had to find the real answers to mental illness and its various labels. Today, I understand the underlying dynamics of fear and a lack of honesty with yourself. I was looking for love in all the wrong places.  

I was used to being treated poorly from my home. Because “Like attracts like“, I had subconsciously found a person as sick as I was. I did not see that we were two peas in the podWith thirty years of thinking I could change him to like me more or be better to me, was a waste. The only answer was a divorce to find a healthy lifestyle.   

I was a needy person looking for someone to take care of me. My co-dependency held me in the marriage. I realized later that I was emotionally stunted because I had not grown up from my emotional trauma at the age of three. His abuse started from a young age, tooHe was as needy and abused as I wasWe were the Bobbsey Twins.  

Being in the middle of my circumstances, I could not see the trees for the forestSadly, my psychiatrist said, it was not likely he could face his childhood fears and move beyondThis meant he could not likely be honest with himself and outgrow his abuse.  

Our culture has misinformed us as to various illnesses including those labeled borderline, narcissism, Bipolar Disorder, or/and mental illness. We were both narcissistic in unfathomable survivalI was told I could be borderline by my psychiatrist when I was early in recovery for addiction to prescriptions and alcohol 

My husband was seeing this doctor for his recovery, tooDuring a discussion with the doctor one day, he told me he did not like to label people; however, my spouse had psychopathic behaviorThis has shown me a huge lesson that to label people keeps them sick. Putting a person in a box with a label actually adds fuel to the fire and stokes it well for them to live with that label. Medications kept me inside that box, without a way out.  

When a person is seen beyond the label, they can grow beyond the behaviors, and find reality, if they want toThe person inside the façade is a child of the universe that has been wounded. In looking for love, we fearfully search the material world for people and situations to love us 

Learning that I could not change anyone but myself, set me on a path of spirituality. This brought the information that when the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physicallyThe other answer to the solution was that those who suffer grave emotional and mental disorders can recover if they have the capacity to be honest. The decisive factor was to hear what Edgar Cayce, The Father of Holistic Health said, “There are in truth no incurable conditions“. I now knew I could grow up.  

During meditation, one day, the silent voice asked me, “Was I ready to leave my prison of Bipolar Disorder as my mother who was paranoid schizophrenia could not?” I thought for a minute and said, “Yes”Opportunities appeared in my life to support my emotional growth and healthy behaviors into a new life style. I could not have a conscious contact with my higher power while being druggedThe real changes occurred when I stopped all prescriptions for rational thinking. 

My inner voice told me “I would attract another person like me, when I changed. I had to become what I wanted. I wanted to be a mature person and be in a relationship with another healthy person. I made a list of the traits I wanted in a partner. Spiritual, honest, integrity, sincere, and loyal were on my listAfter counseling, the 12 steps, and meditation for quite a few years, I did attract a man with those traits.   

Labels are the levels of fear and lack of self-honesty. I found more behaviors in myself that could be labeled, too. Without clinging to those, I took the steps to replace them with loving solutions. In recovery, I found the answer to grow up and not allow the labels to stop me from leaving my mental prisons. I write and speak about these solutions today.   

Everyone is right where he or she need to be. To allow the other person to find their way and not do it my way, has been the difference. We all have behaviors from karma or this life that we need to heal. Seeing other people through the eyes of love and not focusing on their faults has made a big difference. There is a little bit of good and bad in all of us. 

 I now love others until they can love themselves. To label a person who needs to grow beyond their fears and woundedness is insanity. It is my job to support each “child of the universe on their own path into maturity. It does not matter the label; love never fails.  

My man friend has grown as I have become more emotionally available. I am in a relationship of supporting each other, sharing, being ourselves, and caringNext month will be 16 years in a relationship of unconditional loveWe allow each other to “Live and let live”. Instead of a fear-based life, I now enjoy the love-based life that I always wanted.   

Rev. Marilyn L. Redmond, BA, CHT, IBRT is an international speaker, international award winning writer, international author, international consultant, international columnist, international board certified regression therapist,  artist, and ordained minister for spiritual counseling. Enjoy her latest books, “Road to Success” and “Paradigm Busters, Reveal the Real You”, and other books that are available on They are inspirational and helpful.


No Longer a Puppet

by Guest Blogger – Marilyn Redmond.

I was just like Pinocchio in the story of the puppet. Most of my life I did not have a feeling. As a child, I was told not to feel. My family pulled the strings. I jumped as high as I needed to fit into my family’s demands. When I married, I did the same with my husband. I used my pleasing personality to cover my empty insides. I did what I was told to do. I looked good on the outside, while I was dying on the inside.


Image Credit – Pinocchio by Enrico Mazzanti (1852-1910) – the first illustrator (1883)

I did not want to feel my fear, anger, or anxiety because the pains of abuse were too strong and hurtful. Unknowingly, I stuffed my feelings with alcohol, prescription drugs, food, overachieving, and being a workaholic. This stopped my emotions of fear, guilt, and shame, for years.

Over time, suppressing my fears and secrets often caused medical symptoms. I found that even though I went to church, illness is a signal that I am not connected in consciousness with my higher power. It took years to realize that toxic substances as drinking and prescriptions from the doctors impaired my best intentions. They actually stopped my spiritual union, emotional growth, and suppressed the few feelings I had.

The night I knew I was going to die, from my husband’s manic driving home from a vacation, I prayed for help. “God, please help me, I really do not want to die.” My prayers were answered quickly. I found myself in a treatment center for co-dependency and then stayed for being addicted to the prescriptions that the doctor gave me.

The information that I lived in an environment of “No talk, no trust, and no feelings” was my” aha” moment. Their classes offered tools to change my self-destructing behaviors for a healthy conscious life. Ultimately, I learned to release my negative, non-productive thoughts, behaviors, and communications.

One tool was a helpful key. I was to find something I appreciated about the person, with whom I was most angry. I had been demanding love from my stepfather that was not possible. A new thought could fill the void left from the resentment I carried. I replaced it with acknowledging that I had a roof over my head and food. Replacing the negative for the positive was new to me. This was tough, as I never had looked at things from this point of view.

I had to be honest with myself. Over time, ignoring my inner messages had caused more problems than I realized. Honesty allows me to replace the old depressing past that was blocking off love. I had been the walking dead. Love can now flow through my life.

Over the last 31 years of releasing my earlier period of despair, I found information for understanding that fear can change to love for others and myself. This is called becoming mature. My life has evolved into finding the “Great Reality” of love within. This creates my living in the moment. I changed to projecting my new inward love.

Since I changed, I was able to find a healthy man. Because like attracts like, I found a person with the inner qualities I was becoming. I am treated with respect and caring. We have been together for almost 16 years of unconditional love. I trust myself and do what

is best for me. Today, I am emotionally available to experience love and joyful feelings as my reward. I am able to communicate candidly. I trust him to be kind and supportive.

As I release the past emotional baggage, feeling good, being in joy, and grateful, becomes my daily focus. I have evolved into the person I was born to be. I have come alive and out of the darkness. Living in the presence of love, the sunlight of the spirit, feels good. I have feelings that I enjoy and embrace. Today, I am able to be myself. I pull my own strings.

Rev. Marilyn Redmond, BA, CHT, IBRT is a Holistic Health Counselor, consultant, and speaker. She is also an award winning international writer, syndicated columnist, consultant, regressions counselor, and teacher. She writes a column for “The Sussex Newspaper” and shares the dynamics of life through her own experience. Marilyn is an ordained minister for spiritual counseling, soul healing, and does Past Life Regressions. She is a candidate for a doctorate degree.

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The Tower Card in the Tarot

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I have been reading tarot since I was a teenager and since I started learning to read the cards I have been using them as a tool to access psychic messages for the person I am reading for. This is why it is hard to read tarot for yourself because there are many meanings for each individual tarot card and using your intuitive or psychic ability you have to apply one or two meanings of the card in a way to suit the question or client at hand. You have to also look at the other cards around the card as this will give you a better picture.

I have never read the cards by the book as it didn’t suit me to do so and always read through the cards like a gateway. I never read reversed cards either! Some of us don’t, by choice.

The Tower Card in the Tarot can be scary at face value for some but really the types of meanings I find with it are about assisting transformation. The Tower is connected with the planet Mars and can be associated to the Astrological signs or Aries and Scorpio. Mars is for war and action. I find most of the time The Tower has more of a Plutonic feel to it like associated with the co-ruler of Scorpio. Scorpio is ruled by both Mars and Pluto. Pluto is about deep transformation.

It can show an upheaval of some description and you have to look at the other cards around it to figure out what type of upheaval. It can be about death, birth and transformation whether emotional, energetic or material. It can show that there are external influences that are going to rock your world. If someone has been stuck for a long time then the tower card shows change and this could feel dramatic and maybe overdue.

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I don’t see any of the cards in the Tarot being too difficult to handle. If the Tower Card has the Sun and Ace of Cups or other fabulous combinations around it then whatever upheaval will be positive.

Sometimes we need to loose something or let something go to create a void.
The tower can also just suggest that this is a good time to clean out the closet, eliminate what is no longer needed and reset.

I hope you have enjoyed my brief insights into The Tower Tarot Card.
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Amira Celon
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What is your year number for 2017?

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I find in my private consultation practise that the year number is always very significant to each person. It gives you the trend for each year. It is normally more effective starting from your birthday for the following 12 months.

Numerology has it’s benefits and I think the year number is one of the most effective tools to help you understand what to focus on for each year.

You calculate your year number by adding your day and month of birth to the year number 2017. 2017 is a 1 as 2+1+7 = 10 and you bring it down to a one digit number between 1 and 9 so it is a 1.

So if you were born on the 4th April you would add – 4+4+1 = 9
If you were born on the 31st December you would add – 31+12+1 = 44 and 4+4 = 8. The last digit you are left with is your year number.

Year Number 1 Meaning and trends –

New starts and new beginnings. Feeling more independent, individual, focusing on yourself, being more selfish, starting a new life or a new 9 year cycle, starting a new job, new relationship, new home, birth of a child.

Year Number 2 Meaning and trends –

Focus on relationships, working in with other people, partnerships being either personal or business and work relationships. Anyone in a difficult marriage will either work on the marriage this year or divorce or seperate. If you are single it is a good time to start attracting your soul mate or life partner.

Year Number 3 Meaning and trends –

This is the most fortunate year for luck, abundance, expansion, receiving multiple opportunities or seeking to create more opportunities. This year can have an international theme or be about bigger horizons and things coming from further afield. Often is best not to stop at the first opportunity but see what else comes in and with free will manifest more opportunities and they will come.

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Year Number 4 Meaning and trends –

This is a year of consolidation, foundations, building, waiting, money, establishing strong bases in everything. It is a good year for home and family and working on the home. It is a good year for steady and stable income and banking funds or dealing with banks or financial institutions.

Year Number 5 Meaning and trends –

This is a year of change. Lots of juggling and commuting can be highlighted. Taking on more mini projects, tasks or hobbies. Working more than one job, travelling for work. Moving somewhere new. The air of change can give you energy and inspiration.

Year Number 6 Meaning and trends –

This is best year for marriage, getting married or being in love. It is a great year for redecoration or renovation of a home or business. It can be a creative year. It is mainly the best year for relationships to bloom or be drama free.

Year Number 7 Meaning and trends –

This is a very introspective year where you may dig deep for answers within yourself. It is a year for spiritual development, meditation, going on spiritual trips or quests, visiting institutions whether they are schools, prisons, hospitals, nursing homes, assisted living or legal courts. It is a good year to finish any sort of legal issues that are pending or need to be dealt with. Can be a year of long distant travel.

Year Number 8 Meaning and trends –

This is the best year for career and money. Career advancement or getting a better job somewhere else. If you have gone as far as you can go in your current workplace it will often present an offer of change to a better position somewhere else or a pay rise, bonus, promotion. It is also good for property and real estate – investing, buying, selling, renting.

Year Number 9 Meaning and trends –

This year is about finishing off anything that is outstanding. Finishing a study course. Finishing a 9 year cycle. You may work on something internally that will launch a new direction or life the following year. It is a good year to start a business behind the scenes, getting it ready for more success moving into a 1 year. A good year to clean out the closet, sell – donate – give away – anything that is no longer serving you. You may also cull any unwanted friends who have been draining your energy or have drifted away. This year is about letting go and creating a gap for new things. It can also be about humanitarian pursuits and long distance travel.

Many blessings and have a fabulous year ahead.


Copyright – Amira Celon


Star Children and the New Paradigm

The Truth About Starchildren

Star Children

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If you study new age and occult knowledge, esoteric news, the earth’s evolution, or really any form of “alternative” spirituality (alternative to what?)..  Then you’ve probably heard of the terms “starchildren”, “indigo children”, “crystal children”, and the “rainbow” children”. Talk of them has been popping up more and more recently, as the collective expands and the thirst for knowledge grows.
So we call them “new kids” but in reality, they’ve been here for a long time, getting humanity ready for the shift to the new paradigm that we’ve currently living. And they’re here…everywhere…helping humanity get used to a it a little better…or to at least help guide the way.
When the Mayan calendar ended in 2012…it was the end of life as we know it. Keywords, “as we know it”. We are living in a new paradigm, and kids are leading the way on living in it. They come in with their high vibration to raise the vibration of the earth itself and everyone around them. They are literally here to change the world. And we are doing it right now, continually, in every moment.

Which bring me to my first batch of kids to talk about. We’ve called the Indigos. (the name is sort of confusing….it came about when people first started seeing the color indigo in the human aura. Just to give you a little history lesson that isn’t very important really) I say the main wave of them were born from the 80’s on, some say the 70’s on..but that doesn’t really matter. That’s kind of the point of this article…the specifics and detail aren’t important.

Anyway, Indigos are the warriors. As the saying goes, we “come with machetes, ready to chop down everything that doesn’t serve the new paradigm). We are system busters…and a passionate bunch. We’re getting older now, and are using our machetes, thats for sure. Just look at all the young adults protesting around the world. We are unapologetically ourselves, and will unapologetically fight for the truth and justice, against war and control. Indigos will call out what isn’t “fair”, and won’t stand for it.
We still need our machetes to break down the outdated systems, but, Indigos have cleared the way for future kids to come through a path of truth and love. Indigos are what I like to call the “frequency pushers”. Ushering and pushing humanity into this new paradigm.

Which brings me to the next batch of kids…the Crystals! They are the wave of compassion and understanding. They incarnate here fully immersed in the earth’s new system with it’s new vibration. Compassion, understanding, and fairness. That’s their thing. Their aura’s often appear as “crystalline” and looking, and, like the name suggests, some are big fans of crystals. Crystal children are similar to indigos in the sense that they can see though falsehood..however they are a little more tolerant of it. They are compassionate to the core. They are understand…and I mean on a deep level. When they understand you, they understand you. They are especially uplifting and positive. They see and offer solutions where others fail to look, because we are so overwhelmed with the complexity of this world. They see through it, and are the leaders on showing us how it’s done… with kindness, gentleness, and patience. Sure, they are a little fiesty like the Indigos..but the patience in these kids… oh the patience!
Because Crystals are naturally born with a higher vibration, their job is to raise the frequency of those around them. Because of that, they can become overwhelmed and are known to be very sensitive, as they are operating from a vibration of compassion and understanding. When they first started arriving, their job was mainly to raise the collective vibrational frequency. They were the first frequency raisers..and they’ve done it well! Humanity is operating from a whole new world and on a whole new level now, and it is increasingly growing. They “hold down” the vibrational base of true compassion and understanding..and that keeps us “in check”. This morning, my 7-year-old on asked if I could play a “I love myself” affirmation video that I’ve been using. Talk about keeping me in check! I like to call them the “frequency keepers”.
The last group are called the “rainbows”. As the pattern has been, they are born at a slightly higher vibration. More psychic. More understanding. Fearless like indigos, with the patience of the Crystals. They’re the current “frequency raisers”.

Now. Here’s where I get to the good stuff. I’ve heard it said that “very few rainbows are incarnated”, or that you can tell a starchild apart from other kids because of their big eyes, or some other specific characteristic. But really, there are none left behind. When starchildren arrive, we arrive together. This is the essence of starchildren…living as a collective! Collectively!
Just because some kids don’t fit the description of what many new age books give, dosen’t mean they aren’t one of the “special ones”. We as humans are ALL “special ones”..that is the starchild’s message!
Each one has their own purpose and gifts, and is a part of the universe’s awesome workings.One crystal child might be extremely psychic and talk about past lives, another is gifted with excellent peruaion skills.The universe uses many, and all gifts…and each “starchild” is doing exactly what they’re born here to every situation and experience. And as they work, they raise the vibrations of those around them.

As all of us here on earth learn and work in this new system of love and truth, we grow and raise our vibration. As our vibration rises, our consciousness and possibilities expand and we become open to things unseen and feelings never felt. We are all finally GROWING, and now just living. So. What i’m getting at here…is evolution. Happening right here, right now, for everyone.
..and the kids are leading the way, reminding us not to fear, and to push on in light. As i’ve heard it said, “the kids will save the world”.

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Start where you want to finish

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Dating Advice

A very dear friend of mine always said to me “start where you want to finish”

This is one of the best pieces of advice I have ever received. To give you an example about what I was looking for – A single, emotionally and physically available man who I was compatible with who was available for marriage or at least to start a committed monogamous relationship.

So sifting and sorting through the men who show themselves is very easy when you know where to start. Starting where you want to finish is easy and will avoid wasting your pretty time on the following and my dears there is “a lot of a lot of” this and that out there.

All of this can also be applied to women and same sex relationships.

You don’t want to start with this –

Men (or women) who are still married. Men who are legally separated but do not know or won’t give you a divorce date – a response like – Is that important? I really don’t know – is an avoidance tactic. They do know and they just may not want to tell you that they have no intention of ever divorcing their wives in the near future or they may be married and just want an affair or be in a temporary separation, stay together for the kids, live together in seperate bedrooms in the same house and the scenes go on and on.

If a man is serious about his divorce he will give you a date of the divorce like – Yes my divorce will be complete in 2 mths or 4 mths. 6 mths for me is really too long to wait but you could revisit that person later on if you are still single.

Men who have just broken up with their girlfriends and are still emotionally connected to them. Men who still see their ex girlfriends or who have unfinished business with them and you can usually work that out pretty quick.

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Men who are just too vague like – Oh I don’t know what I want, I will know it when I see it, I just want to go with the flow and see where things take me. These types of vague men are often just playing around and will tell a woman what they want to hear. They may be dating lots of different women, having one night stands, sleeping with their next door neighbour or room mate and just looking for opportunities to have sex. These sort of men will keep you on a rotation as an option and not a choice – that’s how it will end.

Men who come on too strong sexually are often just looking for sex so that’s how it will end -it will end as just sex.

Men who always prioritise or are enmeshed with their children – you will always be the third wheel.

Men who live in obscure places you would never want to live in, foreign countries and long distance cities/towns that you would never want to move to or even visit – this will probably end in a long distance relationship just how it started unless the person is relocating to your area with a relocation date.

Men who say they are not looking for anything serious and are being honest. Most men and women who say they are not looking for anything serious are not. So it will end in a relationship that is not serious or committed in any way.

Men whose family, caste or religion would never accept you for whatever reason. This will often end in heartbreak and tears for both parties.

Men who don’t have time for a relationship like people who work very demanding jobs, are living in places like Afghanistan for long periods of time before marriage and just dating, people who work multiple jobs, juggle kids and jobs and have no time for a relationship or are always exhausted from their lifestyle. This also includes sports fanatics or people who workout all the time and some do sport for their work, workaholics, wilderness people or people go ‘walk about’ for long periods of time, world nomads, certain types of travellers who are rarely home.

I also put in their for me travelling salesmen – I would never really trust a man who is always on the road and meeting a lot women in different ports/cities but that’s me. The typical “American salesman” can sell you anything – a story, a lie or whatever. Often the normal travelling salesman in America is at home maybe one week out of four in a month, this is way to little to establish a relationship.

Men who have substance/behavioural addictions or have personality disorders like being narcissistic. You will finish with the same person most likely.

Men who are hot and cold, on and off, sometimes interested and available and sometimes not – You will finish with a hot and cold part time boyfriend/girlfriend most probably.

This may all sound a bit skeptical but I have seen too many cases with my clients and in my dating life not to be absolutely supportive of “starting where you want to finish” to get the best result.

You only need one person so why tie up your time and energy with one wrong person?

You have to remember who you are, you are awesome and deserve the best.

Why lower your standards or compromise? This will just wear you down and mess up your self esteem.

So with that I have to say it is best to start where you want to finish. Don’t loose sight of your goals, whatever they may be and they may be very different for everyone. Keep moving forward until you manifest what you want. The universe is listening to you and it will co-operate sooner or later.

Love and blessings



Is Morocco a Scorpio?

Is Morocco a Scorpio? Morocco is the land of the exotic! 


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Everything about Morocco is extremely exotic. The women look Scorpio like with dark kohl pencil around their mostly dark mysterious eyes and abayas covering their hair and often parts of their face. Eyes peering and penetrating the light. The rituals of henna tattoos on hands and feet to beautify for their weddings and special events. 

There is something very dark and deep about Morocco as well – the growing of hashish, the hidden corners, nooks and crannies in the souks or markets and neighbourhoods. Morocco has an element of danger as well as enticement – this is very much like a scorpio – come into my web, enjoy my fruits but you may not come out alive. 




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It beacons the traveller, the adventurer, it speaks in many different tongues. The oud incense rises out of homes, the women sit around in secret places peering into the grounds of their coffee cups for psychic readings. The mystics and sorcerers of Morocco are well known in the middle east for spells, potions and fortune telling. 

Dare if you will to go to Morocco and see if you come out like a phoenix rising, transformed through the experience, for better or worse. The most dangerous Scorpion in the world lives in Morocco – the Fattail Scorpion.

Not for the faint hearted I would say but Scorpio sun and anyone with loaded planets in the sign of Scorpio are not for the faint hearted. They go deep and they penetrate the other side for the rebirth of their own reality.